Dance, Dance, Dance

Your Momma never told you to dance your way to happiness.

I recently attended a stress relief seminar at work.. One of the major things that caused me stress in the morning was trying to get my kids up and moving at a quick pace. The stressful routine started with me going to their rooms each morning and saying…”Time to get up.” I would say this in a nice way the first three times and then I would begin to get angrier and angrier every time I repeated the phrase. By the tenth time of saying “Time to get up”, I would be on the brink of screaming. I would then recite a list to my kids of all the things I had to do that morning to get them to school and to get myself to work. I would start to panic that I was going to be late to work and lose my job. Then, I would imagine we had no money and I would go through my emergency plans in my mind of how I would make ends meet. I would spiral into a full blown anxiety attack and while all of this was going on…my kids would still be laying in the bed with the covers over their heads.

Let’s face it ladies..this was not working so I decided to make the change. One of the suggestions the speaker suggested to reduce stress was to dance every day for at least 10 minutes. After attending the seminar, I decided to implement a morning dance into my morning routine. I went home that day and downloaded upbeat hip hop songs to my Ipod and played them in the next morning. I put on my old college favorite...The Show…by Doug E Fresh and immediately began to dance in the kitchen. My mood completely changed...I normally dreaded the mornings...but this particular day I was happy and excited. I was jamming and dancing while cooking breakfast….having a good time. Within a matter of minutes a little face appeared with a big smile on her face. Then the second little face appeared and next thing I knew my daughters and I were having a morning dance party in the kitchen. We even got the dog to join in with us. That is right…I did not even half to say a word to my children. They came to join the party.

Now, each morning....dancing has became a fun start to the day. We dance and laugh every morning for about 10 to 15 minutes…and then we dance our way to our rooms to get dressed.

Ladies…I am more relaxed and excited about the day since I have begun dancing in the morning. My children are happier and look forward to hearing what I am going to play the next day. Ladies…I challenge you to try dancing in the morning, dancing with your children, and dancing with your spouse or significant other on a regular basis. I guaranteed you will feel happy and more relaxed each day.

Till next time ladies

Man Made Chaos

Your Momma never told you that a man can cause your life to be full of chaos.



Ladies…Have you ever been the victim of man made chaos? You know what I am talking about. Everything is going fine in your life and then a man comes along …and suddenly without warning…your life becomes a state of confusion and chaos. What was once a budding relationship full of fun and romantic dinners has turned into a dysfunctional toxic experience….and you are left wondering…Is it me? Am I crazy? Why do I have to be the grown up? Why do I have to clean up this mess?

I went to Jamaica with my man for a relaxing romantic trip. We decided to go on a Catamaran (boat/raft) for fun. I asked my man, if he knew how to operate a Catamaran and he scoffed…”It is not that hard.” I suggested we get an instructor to go with us but of course I was ignored. My man thought that someone would steal our cameras while we were out in the ocean so he insisted we take them with us on the Catamaran…against my suggestion that we leave them ashore.

Needless…to say…15 minutes later…I found myself being propelled out of the Catamaran into the ocean. You guessed it! My man had no idea how to turn the boat. SPASH! We both became panicked and began flailing our arms back in forth. I swear for about two minutes I saw my life flash before my eyes. My children…my home…old friends…my funeral…everything ran through my mind at record pace. I was screaming and yelling and gasping for air…my feet could not touch the bottom....I was in DEEP trouble. My man was grabbing for me as I began to drift away from the boat. I knew this was the end. Just when my arms began to feel too weak to move anymore, a Jamaican man pulled up in a little motorized boat and said (with a Jamaican twang) “Miss calm down…CALM DOWN…you are wearing a life jacket!”

It took me a moment to realize what he said. I was able to simply float if I just stopped believing I was drowning. And where were our cameras you ask? That’s right…at the bottom of the ocean.

When we got back to shore…I went straight to the bar and got a fruity drink with extra rum. I could not even speak to my man who was still in shock from the whole experience. I would attach some pictures of the trip but there aren’t any.


Ladies…we have to avoid this man made chaos…we have to trust our instinct and say no when we see our men stirring up trouble or leading us to trouble. Ladies…we are able to make logical calm decisions….lets learn to trust them and avoid the man made chaos.

Till Next Time Ladies

Don't let a man's foolishness get you sick!

Your Momma never told you....don't let your man's foolishness get you sick.

Ladies…I recently went through a sudden and unexpected break up. The break up sent me into an emotional tailspin. You would think after all of my dating experience…after all of the doggings I have been through…after a divorce…I would get used to it but that is just not the case. I was shocked and overcome with sadness. I had trouble sleeping. I became distracted at work. I couldn’t eat. I lost weight. I couldn’t concentrate. I was driving and missing exits. I was bursting out in tears in the middle of the day. Simply put, I was depressed.

A few weeks after the break up, I went to the doctor for my regular check up when I was told…”You have high blood pressure”. I shot right up from the examining table said to my doctor…YOU MUST BE JOKING. I am in good shape…I am just a little depressed and stressed out right now. I explained about my break up and my doctor also informed me that depression is one of the top five causes of a women’s health to seriously decline.

Ladies..I had a wake up call. I had a check up not six months prior and I was the epitome of health. Now, after dealing with a man and his foolishness, I had lost 12 lbs, was sleep deprived, and had high blood pressure. I realized then…these men out here have the ability to damage to you emotionally and physically…if you let them.

Here is another example. A friend of mine who is currently going through a separation called me one evening after speaking with her “man” for about ten minutes. Laddies...do you know she was complaining of anxiety, heart palpitations, and a migraine after a simple phone call? She was in a complete full blown panic and a state of confusion. She was in her home searching the medicine cabinet for migraine medication. It only took ten minutes of interaction with her “man” to cause her health to decline. Imagine if she was with him for 24 hours…I guess I would be at the hospital right now kneeling by her bedside and praying for her recovery.

Ladies…this is ridiculous. We have got to get a hold of ourselves and not let a man cause us so much stress and anxiety that we begin to develop serious health problems. When I left the doctor’s office, I immediately got a hold of myself and kicked myself back into self care mode.

Within a days…I began to feel better. No more ladies…I have a family to raise and grandchildren to meet. Ladies…if any of this rings a bell…if your health has declined due to a man and HIS shortcomings or poor behavior…wake up and regain control of your mental and emotional health. Don’t allow a man and his inappropriate behaviors send you to the hospital. Pull yourself together start walking down the road called…The Rest of your Life.

Till next time ladies.