The Genie Complex

Your Momma never told you...beware of the Genie Complex.

There used to be an old TV show called I dream a Jeannie. Jeannie was a beautiful genie who lived in a little bottle. She would blink her eyes and pop out of the bottle when her Master named Tony called for her. When she came out...she would grant him his every wish. I used to love this show but looking back on it....I don't recall Jeannie every wanting anything but to make Tony happy and make his dreams come true. I mean..she lived in a bottle for goodness sake...she did not work or have children...she did not have bills or go to school. All she did all day was chase Tony around trying to make him happy.

Ladies, I think sometimes, men think when they go to the alter, they are acquiring a genie. A woman that will look beautiful every day...with the perfect figure...and perfect makeup...who pops around the house making everything perfect. A woman who will grant his every wish...all the days of her life....and ladies...some of us women...believe this is our role also. Ladies, we have all seen an independent woman acquire what I call the Jeannie complex when they get married...even when they are dating. Suddenly, the woman's dreams and desires magical transform into whatever her man wants.

A friend of mine wanted to stay home with her newborn for six months. If her husband and her sacraficed just a little, they could easily survive without her income...unfortunately her husband insisted on her going back to work. He felt women should work....so her thoughts and desires were just ignored...and she of course complied. Another friend of mine wanted to get her hairbraided in a certain style but her husband did not like braided hair. He insisted she keep her hair straight because that is how he liked it...so of course she did. Another friend of mine had a man who wanted his own business...he simply did not want to work an office job...so she took out all of her savings to start his business. Eventually, she spent all her days and nights trying to keep the business afloat...while he...simply watched her. She wanted to support and honor her husband's dreams....I mean...she was his wife or should I say genie. I had a man tell me he wanted a dog...but I was allergic to dogs...so what did I do...buy him a german shepard and sneeze uncontrollably.

Ladies...I am not saying don't please your man...but make sure you don't loose your dreams, desires, health, and mind doing so. Let's face...genies don't exists....partnerships and marriages do.