Deal Breakers

Your Momma never told you that you will need to establish deal breakers in your relationship.

Ladies...there are certain behaviors that you must not tolerate when living in a exclusive committed relationship and/or marriage. When you get into a committed relationship and/or marriage, you must let your partner know your list of deal breakers in a very clear and consise way.

Deal breakers let your partner know what your boundaries are. By establishing deal breakers up front and early in the relationship, you are letting your partner know what you will tolerate and what you will not tolerate...and when you will declare the deal of committment and marriage over.

Here is a standard deal breaker list that every woman should adhere to...

1. Sexual Intercourse with another person. If your man has engaged or is engaging in sexual intercourse outside of your relationship, you are in a dangerous situation both mentally and physically. This type of behavior is is dangerous because of the possible transmission of disease as you are or have been sleeping with a third person. In addition, it shows a severe lack of respect for you and your family. A marriage is between one woman and one man when someone else is introduced....the original marriage is over.

2. Addictions - Addictions of any kind can not be accepted in a marriage. Alcohol, drugs, pornography, gambling, etc. ...introduce another set of dangerous challenges to a marriage that you originally did not sign up for. Infidelity, financial instability, and violent behavior often occur when someone is experiencing an addicition. While there is nothing wrong with initiating getting helping for your man...this is a deal breaker because you and your family will be subjected to dangerous and destructive behavior.

3. Other Children Outside of the Marriage/Relationship - If at some point during your exclusive committed relationship, your man conceives a child with someone other than you, the relationship is no longer respectful or loving. In addiction, your man has continuously put you in physically and mentally dangerous situation. Ladies...do not tolerate this behavior or take it personally. This type of behavior is indicative of a man with a lack of character.

4. Any type of Abuse - Ladies learn and read about the different types of abuse...emotional, verbal, and physical abuse. It is important to understand the definition of each in order to identify abusive behaviors. Yelling, hitting, spitting, smashing things, lying, manipulating, undermining, instilling fear, keeping secrets, intimidating, witholding, gaslighting, crazy making...are just a few examples of behaviors that occur during abuse. Any form of abuse is a deal breaker.

Ladies, let your man know what your deal breakers are clearly. If this behavior occurs, be prepared to take action by breaking the deal of the committed relationship or marriage, and moving on. Do not compromise your morals, your health, or your values. Do not spend your life being disrespected, unloved, and mistreated.

Till Next Time Ladies