Husband Material Part 2

Your Momma never told you that not every man is husband material.

Ladies, as I said yesterday, after experiencing several failed relationships, I realized my selection process was extremely poor and uninformed. So ladies, you can learn from my mistakes. So here is Part 2 of the characteristics a man needs to be considered husband material.

Husband Material

6. Spiritual Awareness - A man must believe there is a higher power that he must answer to. He must have a faith to rely on when things do not go well. He must know the difference between right and wrong. He must be willing to grow his faith and serve as the spiritual leader of the family. Do not marry a non-religious man and expect him to suddenly start going to church and to find Jesus. It most likely will not happen anytime soon...if at all.


7. Words Match Actions - A man must do what he says he is going to do. He must be a man of integrity. His words must be something that can be relied upon. He must handle his business. He must be trustworthy, speak clearly, and honest. Word salads, mind games, deliberate vagueness, unclear intentions, and downright deception...does not equal a ring on your finger.

8. Expresses Love in Word and Deeds - A man must not only say he loves you...he must show it through his actions and behaviors. Hand holding, kisses, and displays of affection are wonderful...AND so is caring for you when you are sick....so is making sure the bills are paid...so is letting you sleep in while he takes care of the kids. A man's behavior and actions should exemplify his love for you.

9. Show Respect for himself and others- A man must show respect for himself by behaving as a grown up. He must value the creation of his own family. He must carry himself with dignity and have pride in his appearance. He must respect you, your family, your friend relationships, your children, and your work. He must have his own goals but honor your seperate goals...and be willing to help you achieve them. A man who tries to sabatoge or minimize your goals is childish and disrespectful. A man who tries to isolate you from your family or friends is immature and selfish. A man who disrespects your relationship and time with your children...well...enough said....not husband material.

10. Love of Life - A man must have an energetic positive spirit. He must believe in lifelong learning. He must want to try new things and experience new adventures. He must view life as precious and something to be treasured. He must find the humor in life...he must laugh, dance, and be able to play. A man who unhappy with his life or has not achieved his goals....a man who is grumpy and negative....and dissatisfied...is no fun. And watch out if you are happy and successful...it will only piss him off. He will spend most of his time trying to rain and thunderstorm on your parade.

Ladies...I did not mention he should be sexy or hot or good looking or fit because if a man has these ten characteristics....all of those things should exist or magically appear. Conversely, if all he has is good looks and a sexy body, while that is fun to enjoy....it is not marriage material. A man who has these ten characteristics is a long term definite keeper...his strength and beauty will shine through!

Till Next Time Ladies...and for those who are looking...tell me if you find one!