Don't Accept Crumbs

Your Momma never told you...don't accept crumbs from your man.

Ladies...have you ever felt like you come in line after the job, the house, the kids, the dog, friends, parties, chores, and sports. Are you exhausted from trying to keep the house, the job, the kids, and your man in order? Do you look in the mirror and say...how the hell did I get here? Does your man look well rested and put together while you seem to be falling apart at the seams?

Ladies...wake up...you are accepting crumbs from your man. Why is your man just giving you crumbs and not a whole piece of bread? Sometimes it is his ambition, sometimes it is his laziness, sometimes he is simply unaware...but most times...it is because you have not required your man to give you all of his energy and time to you and the family. Most times, you have chosen to do way more than you physically and mentally can handle. You may have put your foot down once or twice...but eventually gave up hold him accountable....and you let him get away with not living up to his promises.

Most times, we women, do not want to admit...we really can not do it all and that we need help managing all of the tasks that go along with having a career, home, family, children, and a husband.

So what do we do ladies...how do we get our man to stop giving crumbs and start to give more. Ladies....we start asking and requiring.

I was having a discussion with a man I am seeing about potentially living together or getting married. When I brought up the subject of chores...he said..."Well I don't like getting down on my knees or scrubbing bathrooms..."...I stopped him right there and replied...."What makes you think I like it to clean other people's funk and dirt off of tubs...but it has to be done". He looked at me in complete confusion.

You see ladies...he is just like most men....they honestly think they can pick and choose what they want to do while you do what is required. NO! NO! Ladies...give them a wake up call. Make a list of everything that needs to be done each day...and ask him to do his fair share. Fair share is 50% or more ladies....it is not 10 or 25%....or what he wants to do. Once you get a committment...you must hold him accountable and remind him of his committment to help. You must not jump in, assist or do the chore because he will ultimately lose respect for you...and simply not take you seriously.

Ladies...don't accept crumbs...tell you man you need him...you need his help...that you can not do it all. Your man may surprise you.

Till Next Time Ladies....