Don't Wing It In Bed

Ladies...your Momma never told you...don't wing it in bed.

Ok. Ladies...I am going to go there. When it comes to sex...two things...know what satisfies you and teach your man how to please you. Don't wing it in bed and hope for the best....chances are... he will get his...and you will still be waiting to get yours days, weeks, sometimes months later. And ladies don't ever fake it...don't let him think he is doing a great job when in fact you just have decided your tired and ready to go to sleep.

Ladies..get educated on new techniques and methods. Read, take online courses, study, and experiment (safely)...in order to know exactly what you like and how to experience intimate pleasure and fullfillment. Be sure to talk to your man and let him know what to do to please you. Don't hold back or be afraid you are hurting his feelings by telling him how to do something or how to get you excited. Every person is made differently and therefore a man will need to learn what you like and what you don't like in bed. Don't just lay there and go with whatever he decides to do and pretend to like it. You are doing you and him a disservice by not being honest.

Why is this important?...because ladies....you most likely will have sex over 30 - 50 years of your adult life. That's right ladies....years and years and years of sex with your husband or significant other. Over and over and over you will participate in having sex....so you better make it interesting and satisfying for you. If you are going to be participating in something for 30 or 40 or 50 years...don't you think you should know everything there is to know about it....and shouldn't your man know a thing or two. Thirty years is a long time to be clueless and dissatisfied with a partner that has not been educated by you on what to do.

Ask your man to join you in reading a book or two on the subject and take the time to try new things. One warning...if you approach your man with this subject and he gets overly freaky...you may need to back off. Make sure you set your boundaries. If you suggest to your man that the two of you start learning more about sex and trying new things...he may think that is a signal to invite a neighbor over to join or pull out a whip or chains. Be careful to let him know the goal is to bring the two of you closer and experience the joy of sharing each other physically for all the years to come....not to turn you into a porn star.

Till Next Time Ladies...