Perfect Mother vs Therapy

Your Momma never told you there is no such thing as a perfect mother....realize you are going to make mistakes that is why they invented therapy.

I was so upset the other day when I caught one of my children in a lie. I continually asked her if she cut my tomatos and she repeated no. She even put her hand in the air as if she was swearing on a Bible (even though I don't think she fully understood what she was gesturing). I was so disappointed. I almost started to cry. How could I be raising a liar for a child? Would she be a liar forever? Maybe I was not holding her accountable for her actions? Was she still angry about the divorce? Maybe I should have stayed in my marriage? I became obsessed with all of the questions.

Then I realize, no one handed me a book of instructions with my daughter's name on it. For the most part, it has been trial and error. It is impossible to forsee how my choices, what I say, how I parent, what I feed her, what school I chose for her, what chores she has to do, how I handle discipline, or what I do will impact each of my children. All I can do is my best.

So I decided when I make a mistake, I will try to fix it. When I don't know how to handle a situation, I will read or go to a professional for help on parenting. And finally, if my daughter ever comes to me one day and says Mom you screwed up when raising me....I will pay for 1 year of therapy and call it a day. Enough of trying to be the perfect mother....I am just going to be the best I can...knowing I am going to screw up something...that is all I can do.

Later ladies!